Lesson #7 in my “Average Sucks! Learning How To Become Remarkable” series. To begin the series (highly suggested), please click –> Here
Marcus Aurelius (a Roman Emperor and philosopher) commonly wrote to remind himself what he was taught as a child. In a volume entitled “Meditations” he wrote, “When force of circumstance upsets your equanimity, lose no time in recovering your self-control and do not remain out of tune longer than you can help. Habitual recurrence to harmony will increase your mastery of it.” In other words, leaders are most likely to get knocked off their center (deal with fires and serious problems) most often. However, great leaders also know how to quickly get themselves emotionally back to center faster than most. And… they practice it!
Now that we have created this awareness in you, we invite you to play this game with yourself. The next time something difficult, frustrating or even terrible happens in your day… PAUSE.
Remember this graphic I created from a previous lesson, “The Successful Leader Personal Behavior Cycle”…
Notice what is at the top of that circle or cycle? It is something I call the Power of Pause.
Be aware. Tell yourself that the best leaders, the most successful people in life get back to center faster. They realize that it is in “center” or in the place of equanimity where you make better decisions. It is there where people find you to be the person they know and love. The leader they admire. Look up to. It is in center where people find and FEEL your spark. Your special gift. It is there where you are at your best. Where you also happen to be your most creative.
So again, practice this. Pause. Take a slow deep breath in. A long breath out. (In on 4, out on 6). Again, in on 4 and out on 6. This time (during this second inhale and exhale) shift in your mind from negative outcome to positive. Imagine that a solution will appear. After all, it usually does. Feel that excitement. Now a third time… in on 4, out on 6. This time imagine the best possible outcome… that out of this challenge or problem, a valuable lesson will be learned that will propel you from where you, your career, your business is right now. Imagine simply something better.
If you want to learn the Power of Pause and how to Play the Equanimity Game I assure you it will be something you will need to practice. Practice regularly in fact. And, mostly likely, with a mentor or accountability partner. What better way to get started practicing than sign up for Andrew’s Hour Of Power. To see what so many others are saying about it go to the “What They Are Saying” tab above.
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